You Can Be Anything - Even President! Finally true.

When we’re little, we are told that we can be anything we want to be. And I think most parents really mean that.

Up until today, that sentence really should have ended with “Unless you want to be President, little girl. Too bad for you, that job is for old men. Also Vice President. But you can do anything else. You could even MARRY a President!”

Women have had to fight, and are still fighting, to be equals. This is not about race, religion, or anything other than gender.

You think this is about race over gender? In 1869, Congress passed the 15th Amendment, giving African American men the right to vote.

The 19th Amendment, granting women the right to vote, wasn’t ratified until 1920, the victory followed “decades of agitation and protest.” Woman suffrage supporters were lobbying, marching and protesting in the mid-19th Century, and we were still made to wait 70 years.

Women still struggle for equality in many ways. There is a glass ceiling in many jobs. There are only 14.2% of the top five leadership positions at the companies in the S&P 500 are held by women, according to a CNNMoney analysis.

Women are often told that they can “have it all” as if there was a reason they couldn’t have both a family and a career. For highly ambitious men, having a family is seen as stability and a great thing. For women, people wonder if their family is a distraction or if they will need more time off than other employees because of sick kids and family stuff.

Men are often considered to be “babysitting” when they are alone with their own kids, as if it is some amazing feat that they keep the kids alive for a couple hours. It’s not babysitting when it’s your child, it’s just parenting. Why are women still always considered the primary caregiver and the likely stay at home parent? Why aren’t more men staying at home while the woman brings home the money? Why do we consider it weird when that is the situation?

Men claim that everything is fine, we’re all equal, we should all get over it. Men have NEVER had to worry that their government will continue to make regulations regarding their reproductive organs or their choices regarding them. Men have never had to worry about what they are wearing, where they go, how people will perceive them at night, alone. Men are the skeptical ones when women are raped. "Well, did you see what she was wearing? And she was drunk!" You will never know the fear of walking in a dark parking garage alone, or walking home and hearing steps behind you, but you don't look because you don't want to draw attention to yourself.

Instead of teaching our daughters how NOT to be raped, how to be careful, never put down their drinks, always have a buddy, don't go off alone, don't wear too revealing clothing, perhaps we should be teaching our sons "DON'T RAPE."

This is perfect explanation of our society until now. We blame the victim, we teach the victims how not to be attacked instead of blaming the attacker.

Men get all up in arms. Some call themselves “Meninists,” mocking feminists. Which makes zero sense to me. The majority, the unencumbered, the white men in the US are angry that women want NOT to take what they have, but simply to be allowed to also have those things? Why in the world would people be upset about that?

This is a huge day in American history. It will absolutely be taught in our country’s schools and government classes. The day that a woman is an official Presidential candidate.

When I talk to my nieces, when I have children of my own, I can tell them “You can be anything you want, even President, if you work hard!” And for the first time in US history, it will be true.

US Politics: The "Us vs. Them" Mentality

"A man with conviction is a hard man to change. Tell him you disagree and he turns away. Show him facts or figures and he questions your sources. Appeal to logic and he fails to see your point." - Stanford University social psychologist Leon Festinger (1919 - 1989), best known for cognitive dissonance and social comparison theory.

It's so easy to tell people what you believe in terms of your values, your political leanings, your morals. But it is much harder to describe WHY you believe the way you do.
Science tells us we are more likely to believe things from someone we perceive as trustworthy. We are also more likely to believe things from people who are like us, maybe in terms of career, ethnicity, or socioeconomic levels.

When people form and cling to false beliefs despite overwhelming evidence, the phenomenon is labeled "motivated reasoning." As explained in an excellent Newsweek article, in other words, "rather than search rationally for information that either confirms or dis-confirms a particular belief, people actually seek out information that confirms what they already believe."

This is why anti-vaxxers rely so much on one debunked study done long ago by a disgraced scientist who was paid off by pharmaceutical companies. Despite the overwhelming evidence that vaccines do not cause autism, they want so badly to believe that they do, to justify their actions and beliefs, that they will point to anything to continue to believe it. Literally, deluding oneself.

Motivated reasoning can also help explain why the people of the US (and the internet) have such difficulty reasonably and coherently arguing or debating politics. It is a topic that people invest in mentally, emotionally, and sometimes monetarily. And we want to continually reaffirm why we believe the way we do: that our candidate is the best, that we picked the right one.

It also make debating politics with friends, family, and colleagues difficult. We each feel passionately that we are right, that we support the right candidate. And the media certainly doesn't help. We are bombarded from every station by differing commentary and results on the same topics. Much like religious texts, every political sound byte and statement, every video and every vote, can be spun in a way to support your belief. And when people don't believe the same things we do, instead of trying to understand why and accept that they feel differently, we most often try to find a better way to explain what we think, to CONVINCE them to believe the way we do.

It is incredibly frustrating to live in a country with a two party system, that takes 18-20 months to elect a new President. The two party system has a way of easily splitting everyone into "us vs. them" and it is a horrible mentality to have when trying to decide our next leader. Instead of individual accomplishments or their ability to do the job, we end up saying things like, "Well of COURSE you think that, you're a REPUBLICAN." As if it's a dirty word. And you can just as easily see it replaced with "democrat" in your Facebook feed, and almost anywhere else.

Instead of Republican vs. Democrat, Red vs. Blue, Us vs. Them, I wish we had the knowledge and the wherewithal to be simply "people who don't agree, but can listen to facts and make a considered decision about who could best lead."

But no. Instead we have people in the Republican party who have openly decried Trump, claimed they would never support him, but now choose to support him publicly because they have no other real choice. It's the Republican party, that is the nominee, and they could not possibly support the "OTHER SIDE." Again, "us vs. them" does not allow you to cross sides.

The two party system divides the people of the "united" states, either intentionally or unintentionally making it's citizens choose a side, dig in their heels, and then continually justify their choice.
On top of a broken system, we have a ridiculously long period of time with campaigns, money spent, propaganda, and debates before the election.

According to the Chicago Tribune, "In the 2008 [US] presidential race, the candidates spent a total of $1.7 billion, double what was spent in the 2004 race. In the U.K. election, a spending cap of 20 million pounds, about $33 million, was imposed on each of the major parties. Of course, campaigns there are less expensive partly because of a ban on paid radio and TV advertising or any ads on matters of 'political or industrial controversy.'" And, of course, is also limited by their 4-6 week time limit for campaigns before the elections.

NPR reports that, "The U.S. doesn't have an official campaign season, but the first candidate to jump into the presidential race, Ted Cruz, announced his candidacy on March 23 — 596 days before Election Day. Meanwhile, Canada just wrapped up its latest campaign season. That one was longer than usual — about 11 weeks. To the south, Mexican general election campaigns start 90 days before election day (and have to stop three days prior to the election), with an additional 60-day "pre-campaign" season, in which candidates vie for the nomination."

The US has NO LAWS as to how long a campaign can last, though many other countries do have laws in place limiting campaign times and spending, and more. NPR continues, "In Mexico, a 2007 law limited the length of campaigns. In Argentina, advertisements can begin only 60 days before the election, and the official campaign itself can start only 25 days after that. In France, the presidential campaign is generally only two-weeks long."

It feels like by the time we even get to the election, Americans are so tired of arguing, debating, listening to candidates, listening to pundits yell at us through TV screens, and the endless bombardment of ads and propaganda, that we just don't care anymore. We just want it to be over. It's hard to stay excited for something for a year and a half.

How can we move into a better system? One that represents more of the people and less of the politics? And can we PLEASE have some sort of campaign time limit and spending limit? There is so much good we could be doing with our money, let's all agree to stop throwing it at people who barely even represent or understand the average American.

Lyrics: Bravery In The Face Of Fire

I like songs that tell a story. I like to write them, I like listening to them and singing them. But I LOVE writing them and seeing how the phrasing and the words fit together perfectly to make something more. When the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. I wrote this awhile ago, and it's one of my top favorite songs I've ever written. I feel that the words and the melody tell a haunting tale, and the melody is really nice!

Bravery in the Face of Fire

Sometimes it hurts

So much.

Sometimes it tears

Your heart.

Feels like it’s ripping away.

Sometimes it burns

So bright.

Sometimes it turns

Too hot,

Feels like it’s melting the pain.

Bandaids cover,

Never heal.

Stitches close but

They don’t deal

With the scars.

[CH]

You gotta stand and fight

You have to win the night.

You can’t turn away

When it hurts.

Doing the right thing, and

Protecting it all,

Even when you’re too afraid.

You’re all that I admire,

Bravery in the face of fire.

Sometimes you win.

Sometimes you lose.

Sometimes the outcome's

Not clear.

Sometimes it works,

Sometimes you break

But you’ll never stay broken

For long.

Bruises show,

Though they fade.

Tears shine bright,

Before wiped away.

He’ll never change.

He’ll never change.

But you don’t have to

Stay the same.

You gotta stand and fight

You have to win the night.

You can’t turn away

When it hurts.

Doing the right thing, and

Protecting it all,

Even when you’re too afraid.

You’re all that I admire,

Bravery in the face of fire.
[CH x 2]